これはあなたが求めているものですか?
DataSet dataSet = new DataSet();
DataTable dataTable = new DataTable("dataTable");
dataTable.Columns.Add("caller", typeof(String));
dataTable.Columns.Add("callee", typeof(String));
dataTable.Rows.Add("999", "888");
dataTable.Rows.Add("888", "999");
dataTable.Rows.Add("999", "555");
dataTable.Rows.Add("555", "333");
dataTable.Rows.Add("555", "999");
dataSet.Tables.Add(dataTable);
string filter = "999";
var result = dataSet.Tables["dataTable"].Select().Select(dr =>
new
{
caller1 = StringComparer.CurrentCultureIgnoreCase.Compare(dr["caller"], dr["callee"]) < 0 ? dr["callee"] : dr["caller"],
caller2 = StringComparer.CurrentCultureIgnoreCase.Compare(dr["caller"], dr["callee"]) < 0 ? dr["caller"] : dr["callee"]
})
.Where(dr => String.IsNullOrEmpty(filter) || dr.caller1 == filter || dr.caller2 == filter)
.GroupBy(drg => new { drg.caller1, drg.caller2 } )
.Select(drg => new { drg.Key.caller1, drg.Key.caller2, count = drg.Count() });